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Welcome To Kanaris Psychological Services, P.C.
Sexual addiction is a highly controversial and debated topic in the field of sex therapy. What is not in dispute is that when sexual behavior feels out of control it can damage relationships, end marriages, diminish productivity, threaten employment, jeopardize health and well-being causing shame, depression and contribute to low self-esteem and even self hatred.
Out of control sexual behavior is usually secretive. It can be manifested by excessive use of pornography, sexting with strangers, cybersex, prostitution, and cyber affairs. This can lead to feelings of alienation, loneliness, and conflict in marriage or the primary love relationship. In some cases sexual dysfunction can develop and venereal disease.
The most common approach to treatment has used a model for the treatment of addiction. For some people 12 step addiction programs have been helpful. Unfortunately, this approach can be shaming and pathologizing of the person suffering from the condition. Dr. Kanaris has developed a psychological approach to treating the problem that empowers the person to gain control over sexual behavior and increase well-being. The marriage partner or significant other is included in the treatment with the goal of addressing the damage done to the relationship and emerging with a stronger relationship.
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What would be most helpful for you right now?
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What would be most helpful to discuss?
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Are you currently in a relationship or marriage?
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Who is this situation mainly about?
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Is what you're experiencing sexual in nature?
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Which feels closer to what you're experiencing?
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What does it relate to most?
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What's at the heart of it?
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Is this more physical and sexual, or emotional?
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Now that you have a better sense of things — what would be most helpful?
Your path
Understanding and reclaiming your sexual behavior
Whatever brought you here, the fact that you're looking is a meaningful first step. Dr. Kanaris takes a non-shaming, empowering approach — the goal is not to label you, but to help you understand your behavior and put you back in control.
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Your path
What you're feeling makes sense. Here's where to start.
When trust is broken — especially through online behavior — it's a specific kind of wound. Dr. Kanaris has spent decades working with people in exactly this situation. These resources will help you understand what happened, name what you're feeling, and begin to see a way forward.
If you want to go deeper
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Your path
You're here. That matters more than you know.
Coming to this site took something. Dr. Kanaris works without judgment — his approach is built around understanding behavior, not condemning it. These resources will help you make sense of what happened, why, and what a genuine path forward looks like.
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Your path
Working through this together is possible. Here's how.
Recovery is not just about surviving — Dr. Kanaris has seen couples come through this with a stronger relationship than they had before. His model is collaborative, evidence-based, and built for exactly this situation.
If you want to go deeper
Ready to work with Dr. Kanaris together?
Couples therapy available. Teletherapy in New York State.
Your path
Life conspires against intimacy. Dr. Kanaris knows how to fight back.
Over time, physical and sexual connection can fade in almost any relationship — or personal difficulties can arise that feel isolating and hard to name. Dr. Kanaris has an original framework for understanding exactly why this happens and what to do about it.
⚠️ Note for Dr. Kanaris: This path currently serves both sexual intimacy issues within relationships and individual sexual difficulties. Please review whether the content below is appropriate for both audiences, or whether a dedicated page is needed.
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Individual and couples sessions available. Teletherapy in New York State.
Your path
Something has quietly come between you. It has a name.
Emotional distance, communication breakdown, difficulty connecting — whether in a current relationship or as a personal pattern, these are real and treatable. Dr. Kanaris has a clear-eyed view of what erodes connection in modern life, and how to rebuild it.
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Individual and couples sessions available. Teletherapy in New York State.
Your path
When trust and intimacy are both affected, the work touches everything.
Dr. Kanaris's approach is built for exactly this kind of complexity — where something has happened that damaged trust, and the intimacy between you has suffered as a result. These resources address both.
Ready to work with Dr. Kanaris together?
Couples therapy available. Teletherapy in New York State.
Your path
Two areas may be relevant — take a look at both.
Based on your answers, your situation could relate to either of these areas. Dr. Kanaris works across both — have a look and see which resonates more.
Out of control sexual behavior
When urges or behavior feel compulsive, secretive, or hard to stop — and you want to regain control.
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Sexual intimacy & functioning
When desire, performance, or physical response has become a source of difficulty or distress.
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Your path
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