Three Key Developments

  1. The Internet
  2. Social Media
  3. The Smart Phone

The Next Technological Phase

  • Virtual Reality
  • Robotics
  • Artificial Intelligence

The Mechanisms in Support of Cyber Infidelity

  • Accessibility
  • Affordability
  • Anonymity
  • Portability

Common Case Presentation

  • Discovery of cyber affair
  • Treatment as the last hope for the relationship
  • Possible accusation of “sex addiction”
  • Broken trust
  • Deep wound of partner
  • Pervasive digital threat
  • Underlying relationship issues
  • Underlying sexual issues
  • Underlying individual issues

Collaborative Model for the Treatment of and Recovery from Cyber Affairs

Four session assessment approach

  • Facilitate the narrative: the couple’s story
  • Address the offender’s shame and guilt
  • Address the partner’s hurt, anger and insecurity
  • A new model for trust
  • Externalization of the problem
    -the problem is the enemy, not each other
  • The solution is collaboration

Addressing triggers for each

  • Gradual restoration of intimacy, affection, sexuality
  • Collaborative technology management
  • Relapse prevention
  • Fading of treatment